Thanks to the celebrities that adopt, I feel adoption has taken a bum rap. It all looks so easy when they do it. It appears that money can buy you a family. I'm here to set the record straight. At least in the "real world."
Adopting a child is an arduous task. It doesn't happen overnight. It takes months, sometimes years. Unless you have gone through it, I doubt you have a real sense of what it is like. I say that to you with all due respect as I had no idea how difficult it was.
It all begins with a home study. I naively thought that the social worker would come to our home, look around, chat a bit and deem us fit for parenthood. Was I ever wrong! We had many home visits and the case worker assigned to us asked us at least a million questions. At least it seemed like. She required our family histories...from medical to psychological. She asked about chemical dependencies, religion, finances, friendships, job histories and a lot of hypothetical questions about how we would deal with certain situations as parents. She wanted to know our opinion of Sesame Street. Was it really educational or just a fluffy kids show?
None of these questions bothered me.
Then she got to the nitty gritty. What kind of a child did we want? I detested this question. I mean, who gets to pick the type of child they wanted if they birth them? Would it be OK if they needed corrective lenses? How about hearing impaired? Would physical impairments be OK? How about mental delays? We had to get beyond being resentful and get to digging deep within our souls to determine what kind of a child we felt we could parent well. We couldn't have a child unless we were willing to self evaluate our own potential for being parents. I often wonder how many people would become parents if they had to answer all of these questions before becoming pregnant.
We gave our answers. We were approved and then we waited. We waited less then a year and became parents of our son when he was 2.5 years old. Two years later, we brought our daughter home at 2 days of age.
Life was wonderful!